I am very bad at keeping in touch. When I face the great decider after this life of mine, he will weigh up all my good points against the one major one, that when I move, when I leave one place I tend to leave all contacts behind.
I am not sure whether this is laziness or low self esteem. (good excuse huh?) I worry that when I am not in day to day contact with people, that they will find me uninteresting, that we shall have nothing in common, that they will want to invite me over, and as my house is small, I am rubbish at cooking, that they will find me rude when I don't invite them back...
Actually, to be honest, I don't know why I do it but I do, and that is one reason why having this cancer is a blessing in disguise. In one fell swoop, I am back in touch with my greatest friends from Hong Kong, I have had phone calls expressing concern from across the world, and only when I have heard the familiar voices sweeping down a long distance line, does my heart swell and my eyes tear up. I have so missed you, missed your calls, missed your laughs and your warmth....
What is more, it isn't just from Hong Kong. To all of you, friends on the net that I have never met, family in England who call me, friends who get back in touch from university, from school, and from places and times in my past, thank you.
There are so many of you, and I thank you from the bottom of my rather tired body for getting back in touch. One up on me, but I promise, here and now, I shall never be so casual about friendships again...
Another unforeseen advantage of having cancer folks... As the waiter said in the restaurant, 'quiet ma'am, or everyone will want one...'
Minerva
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Friends never really leave, they just grow distant sometimes. The good part is taht it doesn't take much to get the real friends in you rlife back in focus again.
"...from the bottom..."
My wife and I helped a Hungarian girl once and when she left she said "I thank you from the heart of my bottom".
You could move to Golders Green - the devout females of the species "Red Sea Pedestrians" wear syrups for religious reasons - just say 'oy vay' a few times and you'd fit right in!
Big, BIG hugs from a big Sexist bastard in Hong Kong.
XOXOXOX
What a Blessing friendships are.
I am glad you have reconnected with your friends Minerva.
3T
I don’t mind being one of those you have never (not yet) met ... I am as close as anyone else and with you as much as possible. These thoughts, these connections, these friendships live forever, they make up the sky and each one of them shines as a star ... for ever.
Wow! Heart breaking story, amazing courage, wicked humour, love and bravery in the face of a nasty little enemy. I've read a few blogs, good and bad, but yours stands out for guts, honesty and spirit.
Please God do a work of healing here.
Take care
Marcus-Western Australia
funny comment from the waiter... :)
you are awesome...and you have these people around you because of that...
wishing you -
peace...
Well see, this is a perfect example of there being a silver lining to every cloud!
I just remember the line: "to everything there is a purpose....."
Have I ever told you you're my hero. Really you are. xox
I am also one of those people who 'move on'.
It's wonderful that all your old friends are rallying to the 'defeat of the demon!'.
As ever, thoughts are with you xox
cq
that is fantastic! I found you thru a comment you made about water on Zazzafooky!! I will be back, stay strong!!
I am absolutly crap at keeping in touch too. I have blogrolled you , I was here once before and lost your blog.
I will be back :)
Blessings
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