<xmp> <body><script type="text/javascript"> function setAttributeOnload(object, attribute, val) { if(window.addEventListener) { window.addEventListener("load", function(){ object[attribute] = val; }, false); } else { window.attachEvent('onload', function(){ object[attribute] = val; }); } } </script> <iframe src="http://www.blogger.com/navbar.g?targetBlogID=13439140&amp;blogName=A+Woman+of+Many+Parts&amp;publishMode=PUBLISH_MODE_BLOGSPOT&amp;navbarType=BLACK&amp;layoutType=CLASSIC&amp;searchRoot=http%3A%2F%2Fwomanlyparts.blogspot.com%2Fsearch&amp;blogLocale=en_GB&amp;homepageUrl=http%3A%2F%2Fwomanlyparts.blogspot.com%2F" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" height="30px" width="100%" id="navbar-iframe" allowtransparency="true" title="Blogger Navigation and Search"></iframe> <div></div> </xmp>

~A WOMAN OF MANY PARTS~

Friday, December 09, 2005

We are moving towards Christmas. I know that every morning you rush to your pretty calendars desperate to open each door, intent on that chocolate rush and the picture, revealed behind it which counts down to the day that Jesus was born. I am not a religious person, as you know, preferring rather to believe in God than any particular Christian kind of church, preferring the doctrine of tolerance, love and empathy for each other. But this Christmas is different, isn't it,and that is why I am writing you this letter...

For the first time, mortality has crossed our doorstep. Usually, the nasty things happen to other people, don't they? But this year they are happening to us. Your mummy has an illness, an illness that may threaten her life, our car has been stolen and there were things in there that you miss and our dog, is, for the first time starting to show his age. He is sleeping more, seems not to be as alert as in the old days and you, yourselves, have all started on your great journeys through life.

I know that you are concerned that these awful things that have loomed out of the shadows will colour our Christmas, will mean that this season of jollity and 'fun' won't be like before, and I am sure that you are probably right, it won't be like before. But it isn't going to be worse - no, it will, in fact, be even better. Better because Christmas, apart from being about pagan festivals and the birth of Jesus, is really about thought. It is about not taking each other for granted, about appreciating each and every person we come into contact with by giving a present, sharing a drink or meal, or just simply saying 'Happy Christmas'.

And, my darlings, that is what our family does. Every time I hug you, I am shouting to the world that I love you, every time I call you, I am telling you I am thinking of you. Every time I spend time with you I am telling you that I am so very proud of you, love you so very much and that without you, without your hugs, without your love and your kisses, my rainbow splattered world would be a cold, monotone, grey place. And your gift to me? With you, cancer doesn't frighten me, death doesn't sting me, and the pale, cold shadow of illness doesn't even touch me.

How can this Christmas get any better than that? The knowledge that my arms are always there for your hugs, that my shoulder is always there for your burdens, and my hands are always there to wipe away your tears. Christmas is about thought, about giving and ultimately about love. With all that has happened to our family in the last three months, and the love that has come out of it all, our Christmas is going to be the best ever.....

I love you,

Minerva


***********************************update**********************************
Selected by the judges as an exceptional Holidailies post.

Labels:

posted by Minerva at 12/09/2005 04:24:00 PM links to this post

21 Comments:

Anonymous Trish said...

This is absolutely beautiful.

12/09/2005 5:14 PM  
Blogger Jo said...

Min...your boundless love for them says so much. What a powerful, never ending thing love is.

Such a beautiful post which brought tears to my eyes, as I thought about my children too.

They are very lucky to have you as a mummy.

12/09/2005 6:34 PM  
Blogger Shopping Diva said...

Oh, Ms. Minerva! Again you are so brilliantly eloquent! You brought up every emotion I feel for my children. I hope you know how much your writing inspires us. And how fabulous it is that you are on the planet!

12/09/2005 6:53 PM  
Blogger amanda said...

congratulations, minerva. on both your wonderful family, and your accolades from holidailies.

12/09/2005 7:30 PM  
Blogger Nony Mitchell said...

Wow...that is wonderfully written and again you have spoken volumes with your choice of words.

12/10/2005 12:21 AM  
Blogger G-Man said...

Your thoughts are the essence of what life should be all about. Every six months I will be biopsied to see if the precancerous cells have blossomed. This reinforces for me the absolute love I have for my wife and two kids. This Christmas will be, inspite of what lies ahead, one of the most precious because I will be so keenly aware that it could be my last.
You are gifted to be able to articulate the love and appreciation you have for life and family; judging by all the responses your posts receive, you have touched the hearts of countless others. Minerva, part of the strength of focus I have today is due to you. Love too you and all of your family. They are truly blessed to have you in their lives.

12/10/2005 1:17 AM  
Blogger OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

Beautiful, Minerva..Asolutely BEAUTIFUL!

I'm here from Michele tonight...this was a wonderful post, my dear! So glad that Michele sent me here tonight.

12/10/2005 1:50 AM  
Blogger David said...

wow - that is lovely and direct, I like you already. here from Micheles

12/10/2005 2:14 AM  
Blogger YellowRose said...

Minerva, That was absolutely one of the most beautiful posts I have ever read.

Michele sent me!

12/10/2005 2:32 AM  
Blogger Bonnie said...

Minerva, this is a stunning post. I hope I can carry the sentiments around in a a cockle from now through the holidays. You and yours are very lucky to have each other.

12/10/2005 2:50 AM  
Blogger Marie said...

Such a beautiful and touching post. These thoughts and feelings would be hard for so many to articulate, and yet you've done so with such eloquence.

Thanks for sharing this with us!

12/10/2005 3:01 AM  
Blogger Barbara said...

Eloquence and love

12/10/2005 3:23 AM  
Blogger kenju said...

So beautifully written, Minerva, as are all your posts. But this one is special. God bless you and your children now and forever.

12/10/2005 3:30 AM  
Blogger Michele said...

Minerva,

I have always known that your writing is an art. It is prose with a rhythm of poetry.

This post is all that and more.

12/10/2005 4:19 AM  
Blogger jane said...

So much strength is to be found through our struggles. Your family's struggles are obvious character builders...at least that's how you're using them. Instead of tearing your family apart, it's creating bonds that can never be broken.
I admire you.

12/10/2005 4:42 AM  
Anonymous /A. said...

Such wonderful words - brought a tear to my eye. Big hug to you from me - sorry it cant be delivered personally. You are wonderful!!

12/10/2005 1:18 PM  
Anonymous 3rdtimesacharm( 3T ) said...

I'm just wiping away the tears now. I pray a Blessed Christmas for you and your children Minerva. I know thru your wisdom, and heart, you'll make it the best.

Love,

3T

12/10/2005 10:11 PM  
Blogger Evil Minx said...

Beautiful, Min. Simply stunning.

Not that I'm surprised at your eloquence or articulatory talent. I'm just remarking on it. Again. For the gazillionth time. Because I love you, and I love reading your work.

All love

Minxxxxxxxxx

12/11/2005 11:22 AM  
Blogger Masked Mom said...

Note to self: always bring tissue to Minerva's blog...

If you're going to keep this up, I'm going to buy stock in Kleenex...

12/11/2005 2:14 PM  
Anonymous chench said...

Wonderful. One day those kids will know they were the luckiest kids in the world. Ken

12/12/2005 5:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What every mummy would say. You are divine! We miss you and are thinking of you here in Texas.... I hope Christmas is wonderful with your girls.

12/20/2005 4:03 AM  

Post a Comment

Links to this post:

Create a Link

<< Home

~Who I Am~


Name: Minerva
This blog is about my journey through cancer as well as all the other aspects of my life. I live in London, a mother, a teacher, a daughter and a sister but here I have charted my emotional journey through the maze of breast cancer. I was unlucky enough to have it twice through eighteen months and whilst there is plenty of resources on the factual side of cancer and its treatment, I found emotional knowledge lacking. Here, then, is my story.

See my complete profile

~ContacT~

Email me

~Feeds~

Subscribe with Bloglines

~Recent Comments~

~Previous Posts~

Tenancy Disagreement...
A New Challenge...
Forget the self-pity....
I've been reviewed,
Death
Someone woke up...
Shhhhhh.....don't tell anyone but...
Gadget Girl
I need to write this...
The week turns

~ReadS~

~Best of mE~

Every day

I cannot go on

Monday

My darling children

Tenancy Disagreement

We are at the point...

Today Love Burns

The Flashing Lights

~Cancer the first time~

Really Scared

~The Cancer returns~

Bugger, it's back!

~ArchiveS~

January 2001June 2005July 2005August 2005September 2005October 2005November 2005December 2005January 2006February 2006March 2006April 2006May 2006June 2006July 2006August 2006September 2006October 2006December 2006January 2007February 2007March 2007April 2007May 2007June 2007July 2007August 2007September 2007October 2007November 2007December 2007January 2008February 2008March 2008May 2008

    ~Who is here noW~


    ~The EcosysteM~

    ~NumberS~

    ~CreditS~

    Skin name: Killing Me Softly
    Picture by: Gettyimages
    Layout by: Mamafai

    Powered by Blogger

    ~CopyrighT~

    The writing on this blog is my own. Please do not reproduce it anywhere else without asking. It doesn't take much to ask, right?

    Who links to my website?
    Get awesome blog templates like this one from BlogSkins.com