or not. It is, apparently, very bad luck to leave one's tree up beyond the 6th of January. Once the twelve days of Christmas are over, every Christmas decoration must be taken down or woe betide you, yours and your house. Given that I have done that every year I have had a house, as well as avoid ladders, black cats, throwing salt, not put shoes on the table, never open an umbrella in the house and cross myself every time a cortege goes past, and I STILL had the worst year I have ever had last year, I am going, deliberately, out of my way to face every superstition head on.
My Christmas tree is going to stay up until this weekend at least, my black cat is positively invited to walk in front of me, shoes are going to live on the table, and I am in the process of finding a mirror which isn't disconnected to the wall to smash. Tonight at supper I will delight in spilling as much of my salt as I can and leaving it on the table where I am going to gloat over it - 'Come on,' I'll say, 'do your worst... Threaten me with cancer, burgle my house, take my car - go on DO IT!' And I shall laugh maniacally at the same time....
Or rather, that is my ideal scenario. Sadly, being only too human, whilst I do those things a part of me, the same character trait that insists on keeping old candle ends, plastic bags and anything resembling a book will be muttering, 'maybe it was going to be worse and being superstitious saved you from a freak tornado in the middle of London, or being hit from above by discarded beer bottles...' (Apparently it HAS happened....)
The same is true of risk factors for breast cancer: I don't show any of them. I had my children early, I breast fed, in total, for over a year ( and that included twins - where IS my medal?) and have no cases of breast cancer in my family, certainly no one in their thirties. Of course, in my darker moments, I think 'Why me?' (said in a moaning, slightly whiny voice reminiscent of a 3 year old..) but recently I have managed to turn it around and tell myself to imagine how young I WOULD have had it if I hadn't done those things...
That, of course, then makes me look lucky so I think, just maybe, I better take the christmas tree down and put the mirror back....
*smiling*
Minerva
18 comments:
Minerva - Your attitude towards life is remarkable and inspirational.
Just found your blog thank you for sharing - you mention that none of the the risk factors show with you - but you don't mention your (past)smoking here is that because there is no proven evidence of a link?
The superstitious me says, "oh NO Minerva, don't go spitting into the wind now." While the rational wiser me just knows that what we believe is true is more true than the truth will ever become. I usually listen to the superstitious me, until doing all that needs to be done to follow the superstitions becomes too much work, and then the rational wiser self wins out with a nap instead. So, I am going to believe for you that no matter what you do with your tree, and shoes and salt, you are going to be very okay in 2006.
You are a delight Minerva, and I am never disappointed in my visits here at your blog. You sign off with *smiling* and I am always left smiling at the end of reading.
Barbara - Only because you say so, darling...From this side of the fence it is the only choice!
Nicks - Good point but there is NO proven link between smoking and breast cancer - none at all...
Dalene - Thank you so much and I probably won't to be honest, but just the THOUGHT that I might, makes me smile...
Minerva
I laughed with you and believe with my whole heart you are charting the very best course for you. Luck has little to do with life but your outlook is refreshing and will carry you through this ordeal. Please know you are in my prayers.
Minerva, no need to tempt fate now, is there?
I think you are safe with the cat, however. My black cat, Puck, crosses my path every chance he gets. Of course, he drools on me every chance he gets as well.
Trish
hey Min, you wouldn't be able to go round my place and take down my Christmas tree on Friday? I'm not back till Saturday....
Lx
Hi Minerva, Pleased to meet you, as well and glad that I've found your blog. (thanks to Helllonwheels, who sent me)
Hope you don't mind if I come back from time to time, to visit.
Lazy - Thank you for your words - they are lovely and just oozed with warmth like a log fire...thank you..
Kenju - I know..but there is part of me which longs to rebel!
Trish - Mine too, mine too..*smile*
Londinium - No, nuh uh...no way.. In fact, let's leave yours up and see if the anti superstition thing works..*wicked grin*
Kris - Thank you so much for dropping in and welcome!
Minerva
Hey don't tempt fate right? It's like a bad kid with a lighter, just looking for a place to lay some flame down.
Greetings... I stopped by to check in on your blog and wish you a Happy New Year. May all your dreams come true in 2006!
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I say leave it up, Minerva! And enjoy it while it's up! Decorations and all! I wish you only the best in 2006. xo
Great Post!!! I go back and forth on the suoerstion stuff..but I find I lean more towards the "Warding Off" than the "Throw Caution, etc." I admire your wanting to chuck all of it and not care....but, I sure understand if you can't do that...I know I couldn't, Damn It!!! I'll keep GOOD thoughts for you Minerva..you are an amazing person, and I wish you only the best!
Well, shit, Minerva. I was SO hoping that the 4yo I'm STILL FREAKING NURSING was my breast cancer free ride ticket. Are you sure you had no risk factors? C'mon, make one up. :) I have actually been nursing since 1994. I'm pretty sure I had a break during the last pregnancy; say, 2001ish for 6 or 7 months. That's GOTTA give me an out, right?
It is such a pleasure to read here. Even the crappy stuff that happens; you have such a magic with 26 letters.
harvestmoon is right - you can do rare magic with 26 letters.
My tree is coming down today...
Are you shitting me Minerva? It's bad luck to leave your tree up after the 6th?
Guess I won't be blogging today either! (I can't help it, my superstitions run deep too)
3T
PS. I've missed reading you! I need to do some catching up. Now apparently AFTER the tree is packed away... ;-)
Fate smate! You cannot blame yourself for the cancer any more than you can blame yourself for having beautiful children! If we are going to the cosmic side then I believe that we chose the lives we have. We came here to learn some valuable lessons that we will need later. Which means that your children chose you to be their mother because you could help guide them in their journey (which always makes me cry when I think about it - my children are wonderful and I am grateful they came through me!) and complete what they have to do. You still have something to do here, some lesson to learn or to teach to someone. You have become very important to so many with just this blog, I can imagine how wonderful it is to know you in person! Please know that you have changed the way that I go through my day. And every day I wish for it to be wonderful for you! Now go put away your tree and love on your cat!
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